In 2023, I was incredibly fortunate to photograph my sister and brother-in-law’s wedding. In addition, I had the distinction of serving as her Matron of Honor. When I talk about their wedding, the very first question I am asked is “Did you photograph their wedding?” It is immediately followed up with “How did you manage that?” I have been wanting to talk about how I managed both roles for a while because I know there are other photographers who have or will be serving as wedding photographer and bridesmaid. I learned so much from this experience, and thought I would share some tips!

Tips For Serving as Photographer and Matron of Honor:

The first, and I think most important tip I have is to have a solid assistant photographer! I knew I wanted to photograph the ceremony, but I also participated in the processional. Having Katie, of Katie Jacobs Photography was such a blessing! We’ve been friends for years, and have photographed countless weddings together. I knew I could trust her immensely, and knew she would handle the parts of the day that I could not physically photograph like the family formals, full bridal party photographs, reception entrances, my toast, etc. This day would not have been possible without her assistance. I am so thankful for her expertise and artistic abilities in capturing all the moments where I needed to wear the matron of honor hat!

Secondly, it is vital to be heavily involved in the planning process so you are aware of each detail. I attended every vendor meeting which was very helpful. I also had worked with each of her vendors at other weddings so I knew what to expect from them. I created a timeline working in conjunction with her planner. I quite literally studied this timeline for the two weeks leading up to the wedding. Knowing the “ins and outs” of the day is key to making the experience smoother!

The Logistics

I had my hair and makeup completed first, and then I was able to photograph a few details (more on the rest of the details later!), capture some candid photographs of the groom and groomsmen, complete their formal group photos and check in with the other vendors. During this time, the rest of the girls had their hair and makeup done. After that, Katie and I tag teamed the girl’s “getting ready” and bridal prep photos. From there, we captured the father/daughter first look, and then the bride and groom first look. I finished getting ready, and Katie photographed ceremony details for me!

My roles in the ceremony: I thought about my plan for matron of honor duties, plus photography obligations for the ceremony for months leading up to the big day. Ultimately, I decided to photograph most of the ceremony, but still walk down the aisle as a part of the bridal party! I placed my cameras in the front row right before the ceremony started. Katie stood at the front to capture the processional, and after I walked down the aisle, I handed off my bouquet and grabbed my cameras. Katie walked around to the back of the ceremony, and I stayed at the front. From there, we photographed the ceremony as we normally would.

We tag-teamed the rest of the day! I captured some portraits while Katie photographed details from the reception space, then we both photographed sunset portraits. The reception was also a team effort. This approach worked really well for us!

Photographing the Details

The details, flatlays and heirloom items were very important to my sister. I decided to photograph these after the wedding day so I would have plenty of time. I am SO glad I waited because I was able to spend two full hours just photographing detail items. Additionally, I had leftover floral arrangements, a bridesmaid bouquet, and other florals to use for styling. If this is logistically possible, I would highly recommend photographing the details on a separate day from the wedding. Not rushing the creative process leads to some magical results!

This day involved a lot of planning, coordination, and effort, but it was 100% worth it. I absolutely loved being matron of honor, and photographing this day was a career highlight for me. <3

Vendor Team:

• Photography: J St.Clair Photography
• Venue: Rock Hill Farm
• Florals: Sarena Floral Design
• Videography: Isaac Suttle Films
• DJ: CJ Tha DJ
• Planning: Jes Frank Events
• Hair/Makeup: Salon Emage Day Spa
• Dress: Ava Laurenne Bride
• Alterations: Mychelles
• Bridesmaid Apparel: Azazie
• Groom + Groomsmen Apparel: Jos A. Bank
• Rentals: Select Event Group
• Cake + Dessert Bar: Signature Sweets By Amanda
• Bridal Accessories: Jimmy Choo

Featured:

This wedding was featured in Tidewater and Tulle. See the publication here!